Look for the Good…

This past Friday I headed into work via the New York subway. There wasn’t anything different about this particular morning.  The same usual crowds were hustling and bustling to reach their destination on time. As I stood waiting LOOK FOR THE GOODfor my train to arrive, I noticed a young man standing on an adjacent platform across from me.  He was adjusting the height of a standing microphone. Though he was getting ready to strum a sharp-looking guitar, he drew absolutely no attention.  He blended in along with the rest of us.  After all, New York is a melting pot of people. I felt as if I was the only one who noticed he was even there.  After making a few adjustments to his guitar strap, the man started to sing.  And sing he did.  His voice replaced every sound in the station with an incredible rendition of the Drifters classic “This Magic Moment.” I couldn’t believe how utterly amazing he sang.  His voice was incredible and hit the highest notes with ease. In a split second…every eye …all the attention…every look was on him…intently listening to his beautiful voice sing…

“This magic moment…So different and so new ..was like any other until I kissed you …And then it happened… It took me by surprise… I knew that you felt it too…By the look in your eyes..This Magic Moment…watch it here..


After listening to the man sing for just a few seconds, I couldn’t help but start to smile.  I started to sway a little bit in rhythm with the uplifting beat of the song.  And you know what? Lots of other people were smiling too.  In a breath, this man took the cold feeling out of the air and filled it with a beautiful melody that changed what we were all were thinking about.  People were no longer peering impatiently into the tunnel to see if the train was arriving.  The atmosphere felt happier.  The platform didn’t feel quite as “tight” as before.

My train arrived and I hopped. My morning was changed.  I felt less hurried and hummed the song words all the way to work. “This Magic Moment…da ya da da da…I can’t say for sure if the reason why my day turned out so happy was due to the cheery way it started.  Maybe the appearance of the young singer in my morning had nothing to do with my happy disposition. I like to think it did.  I believe that it had a whole lot of positive influence on how I went about doing everything on my to-do list. How I greeted every person and how I felt when I got home.  A happy memory…a magical moment memory… had been planted in the start of my day and I held on to it.  I chose to keep that magic moment feeling.

And what is the inspirational truth I would like share with you?  That there is a whole of GOOD out there waiting to be noticed.  Happy sounds to listen to…smiles we can find or share ourselves.  Friends, choose to look for the good…for those things in your day that bring a smile or a happy thought. There is so much Good that cuts across every one of our days.  Look for them in your day and when you find a few …when you notice one special thing..that person helping the mom to carry the carriage up the steps..or the person who scoots over to make space for you to sit down…or any other good…hold onto it for a bit. It’ll change the lens through which you see things.  You’ll feel happier.  And you’ll want to do some good yourself.

Look for the Good friends.  Keep Looking for the Good.


Tips for Communicating with Confidence & Dressing “Right” for the Occasion

I just came back from a large 2 day conference that offered a great opportunity to network with others in my field. confidenceThe location was great, I met lots of interesting people and left with some new ideas.  As I perused the conference center and participated in various round-table discussions, I began to notice the different techniques men and women used to introduce themselves.  In this type of setting, speaking with confidence and ease is key to establishing a strong first impression.  In this post, I offer some tips on how to maintain a powerful presence and communicate with confidence.  While I am not a fashion guru, I do offer some advice on style and attire.

high heels

Not a good idea if you have to walk all day

Shoulders and Shoes are high impact aspects of how others will perceive you.  Men have it easier in this category than women do when it comes to feet.  They can  wear comfortable “walking” shoes and have learned through the years how important it is to stand straight with shoulders broad and back.  Throughout the conference I couldn’t help but notice that the women wearing those painful pointy high heels didn’t capture the same “presence” as the women wearing a stylish yet comfortable pair of shoes.  The high-heelers tended to shift back and forth as they spoke.  The swaying became more of a distraction and took away from a strong “stand” in the networking circle.  Clearly, the shifting was happening to alleviate pressure on foot by moving it to the other.  Point goes to the guys.  Women please wear shoes that you don’t have to think about at your event.  You want your attention to focus on the conversation, not on how to stand so that your feet don’t hurt. If your feet hurt, your shoulders will naturally curl and you’ll lose your solid strong shoulders presence.  In my case, I wore a cool pair of leopard style flats.  They were comfortable, wearable for the duration and added some dash to my outfit.

These were great shoes to wear at an event that required all day walking

These were great shoes to wear at an event that required all day walking

2. Crisp Suit and Shirt. One of the group discussions was led by 2 men working for the same company.  They dressed differently. One wore the traditional crisp white shirt and suit.  The other a polo shirt, dockers and sports jacket. Most of the people in that session were dressed in formal business clothes.  As both speakers went through their talk, the gentlemen in the suit seemed to be more relaxed and connected better with the audience.  The other more casually dressed speaker didn’t have the same impact standing alongside someone who had clearly dressed more fittingly for the event.  They each went through their presentations and concluded with an invitation to answer any questions. All the questions went to the guy wearing the formal business attire.  I do believe that his dressing right for the occasion (in similar fashion with the audience) contributed to the better connection. The main takeaway here is to know your audience and dress accordingly.  It is always better to fare on the side of “business” than too casual.

3.  Listen More Speak Less.  Not easy to do.  No one is comfortable during the  conversation pause. The tip here is to show interest in the other person.  Let them tell you about what they do and why they are there.  Be a good listener.  During a customer reception, one lady in the group dominated the entire discussion, interrupting others and even tried to describe another person’s job function.  No one liked her.  Slowly and surely, the group started to get smaller.  People left the circle.  I was the last person with her staying in part because I felt bad to make up an excuse to leave and also because she complimented my leopard flats 🙂 so I continued to listen to her story.

4.  Be present.  According to Shawn Achor’s new book, “before happiness”, our brain can only process forty bits of information per second every minute of  every day – choosing from among eleven million pieces of information our senses are receiving.  The people who were the best net workers were those who were “present” in the conversation.  They didn’t constantly check their email, look at their watch, or simply nod when someone asked a question.  They were paying attention and were genuinely interested in the dialog.  Key here is to be ready to dedicate your time and focus on what you are doing in the moment. Participating means more than showing up.  It means being present in “mind” and body.

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